Being an introvert doesn’t mean you have to be isolated at Purim

Jennifer Einstein, a lifelong Reform Jew and introvert, claims that dressing as Mordechai, in sackcloth and ashes, was her best Purim costume ever.

When it comes to practicing Judaism, she sometimes asked herself:

How can I take part in a communal religion when being around people can be so draining? Purim can be a particularly difficult holiday for those of us who consider ourselves introverts.

She writes:


When my home synagogue, Congregation B’nai Tzedek in Fountain Valley, CA, was just starting out, we had an annual Purim tradition: a Purim basket (shaloch manot) was delivered to every single member family within driving range. Every single one.

On the Sunday before the 14th of Adar (the beginning of Purim on the Hebrew calendar), volunteers would converge on the rabbi’s house (full disclosure: this was also my house since my dad was the rabbi) to set up an assembly line on the dining room table. We turned hundreds of hamantaschen, peanuts, flavored Tootsie Rolls, boxes of raisins, butterscotch hard candies, and a note from my parents wishing everyone a chag Purim (happy Purim) into neat little baskets of goodies, wrapped in colored cellophane, and tied with crimped curling ribbon.

Young child with hands over ears, eyes scrunched closed, and a pained look on her face


Further in the article, to remember:

  • In the background, the youth group practiced re-enacting the story of Esther, which they did in lieu of a Purim-spiel.
  • Once the baskets were made, they had to be delivered, and this was the perfect job for introverts.
  • Because ding-dong-ditch was an integral part of “Operation Purim.” The entire job of the drivers was to drive; the accompanying kids would get out of the car, race to the door, drop off a basket, ring the doorbell, and run back to the car. No interaction with the residents was required.
  • I didn’t have to be in the Purim-spiel; I could write it or be the stage manager. I didn’t have to be in front passing out hamantaschen; I could be the person who baked them. I didn’t have to be in the Purim parade; I could be one of the judges. And the less flashy Purim mitzvot (commandments) already are introvert-friendly: donating tzedakah (charitable giving) to the poor and eating a festive meal.
  • I was blown away to discover that the congregation doesn’t only offer a regular m’gillah reading, a carnival, a parade, and a kids’ service. There’s also a time and place for people who want to do a little text study. In a room with other adults, volunteers read the m’gillah, which was followed by a discussion of the text itself. Best of all, we could hear each other, learn from each other, and have a good time. It was great!

Continue reading: An Introvert’s Guide to Purim: How to Enjoy a Sometimes-Overwhelming Holiday


Chag Purim



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